Strap On Dildo Sex Tips: from Scenarios to Positions

Strap on dildos aren't just for experienced hands or a certain sexual orientation - they're versatile and can bring pleasure, intimacy, and novelty to any couple, regardless of gender. Whether you want to try strap on, role-swap, or just want to explore new experiences, this beginner's guide will help you get started with confidence.

Understanding Strap-on Dildo

A strap-on dildo is a sex toy combination consisting of a harness and an insertable dildo. It not only brings a fresh sense of exploration to individuals, but also creates more fun in partner interaction and role-playing. Here is a more detailed breakdown:

a. Harness

• Material and style: Common materials include nylon, leather, lycra, etc. There are three main types: basic strap-on (waist + thigh strap), panty-on, and **vacuum lock (Vac-U-Lock)**.
• Adjustable design: The waist and thigh straps are usually adjustable to support different body shapes from XS to XXL. Some high-end models also come with elastic fabric or quick-release buckles for more comfortable wearing.
• Compatibility: Most strap on straps lock the dildo with an O-ring; the vacuum lock system can replace dildos of various shapes and sizes.

b. Insertable dildo (Dildo Attachment)

• Size and shape: from 4 inches to 12 inches; shapes include straight rods, curves (G-spot/prostate stimulation), slender models, etc.
• Material: Medical-grade silicone is preferred (safe, easy to clean, and odorless), and special materials such as carbon fiber and ABS plastic are also available.

c. Usage scenarios

• Vaginal insertion: Suitable for users who want to explore new sensations in role-swapping or same-sex partner experiences.
• Anal insertion (Pegging): The wearer inserts the dildo into the passive party's anus, which can be used for prostate stimulation or anal dilation training.
• Gender Affirmation: Transgender or non-binary groups often use it to reflect self-identity and enhance gender expression.
• Role Play (BDSM/Power Play): The strap on provides a dominant and submissive role assignment, creating a situation of control and release.

Harness Play Tips: Bondage Game Tips

Want to upgrade your wearable dildo experience? Adding bondage (bondage) play not only adds interest, but also creates a stronger sense of situation and domination. Here are some tips for beginners:

Simple bondage as an opening

Start with soft ribbons, Velcro bondage or adjustable handcuffs, and gently fix your partner's wrists or ankles to the head of the bed or chair. This can create a gentle sense of control and help the other person be more involved in the present.

Combine blindfolds and earplugs

With blindfolds, deprivation of visual stimulation can amplify sensitivity to insertion and caressing. If you want to go further, try earplugs to create an atmosphere of "full control".

Role-playing and psychological suggestion

Bondage games are often combined with role-playing, such as "trainer and student" and "doctor and patient". When using a wearable dildo, appropriate dirty talk or situational narration can enhance excitement and sense of substitution.

Gentle test of tolerance

Before formal insertion, you can use your fingers or dildo to gently push and tap sensitive areas, observe your partner's expression and reaction, and then decide the depth and rhythm.

Best Strap-On Positions: 

Different positions will make the experience of a strap-on dildo completely different. The following positions are suitable for both beginners and partners who want to explore more:

✨ Doggy Style

The most classic strap on sex position, the doggy style is where the wearer stands or kneels from behind, while the receiver is on all fours or prone on the bed. This position allows for deeper penetration, especially for partners who want to feel intense thrusts. It also makes it easy to stroke the buttocks or waist with your hands, creating an atmosphere of dominance and submission.

✨ Missionary

✨ Edge of the Bed

The edge of the bed position is good for controlling the rhythm and depth of penetration. The receiver sits on the edge of the bed or sofa, while the wearer stands in front for penetration. This position is stable and supports, and the hands can be used to caress the thighs, breasts or help fix the position. It is a comfortable and visually stimulating choice.

✨ Cowgirl

The cowgirl position allows the receiver to lead the rhythm of the action. The wearer lies down or sits, and the receiver sits on top and slowly inserts the dildo into his body. This method is convenient for slowly adapting to the size and adjusting the angle at any time. It is more suitable for users who are trying it for the first time or want to experience autonomous pleasure.

✨ Spoon

The spoon position is suitable for couples who need relaxation and intimacy. The two people lie on their sides in the same direction, and the wearer inserts the dildo from behind. The action is gentle and the stimulation is even, which is especially suitable for long-term slow caressing and emotional communication. If you are in bed, putting a pillow between your legs can also increase comfort.

Safety tips for wearable dildos

✅ Use enough lubricant
Whether it is vaginal or anal insertion, a large amount of water-based lubricant must be used. Silicone dildos may not be compatible with silicone-based lubricants. It is recommended to use high-quality water-based lubricants to avoid discomfort or micro-trauma caused by friction.

✅ Gradual progress
Don't rush to fully insert the dildo for the first time. Start with shallow exploration and gradually increase the depth and rhythm. Both parties should communicate their feelings at any time. If there is pain or discomfort, stop or slow down immediately.

✅ Pay attention to the strap adjustment
Before wearing the dildo, make sure the strap or safety belt is properly fixed, the tightness is appropriate, and it will not shift. Too loose will cause shaking during insertion, and too tight will affect blood circulation. Try a few times to find the most suitable wearing method.

✅ Cleaning and disinfection
Wash the dildo with warm water and a neutral antibacterial detergent before and after use. Especially when shared by multiple people or used alternately in the vagina/anus, use condoms or different cleaning and protection measures to avoid cross infection.

✅ Don't ignore psychological communication
Before trying a wearable dildo, fully communicate with your partner about boundaries, preferences, and expectations. Make sure both parties are exploring in a comfortable and trusting state, and avoid reducing the experience due to tension or misunderstanding.

✅ Stay relaxed and patient
Especially when experiencing it for the first time, relax your body and slowly adapt. Tension can cause muscle contraction and cause discomfort. You can do gentle caressing or foreplay first to help your body adapt to the feeling of insertion.

Final Thoughts

Using a strap-on dildo can be an empowering, exciting experience for both partners. The key is to start slow, communicate openly, and prioritize comfort. With the right mindset and preparation, you’ll discover a new dimension of pleasure and connection.

FAQs About Strap-On Dildos

Is strap-on play only for same-sex couples?

No. Anyone—regardless of gender or orientation—can enjoy strap-ons.

Can beginners use a strap-on dildo?

Absolutely. Choose a smaller dildo and an easy-to-wear harness, and go slowly.

How do I know what size dildo to start with?

For beginners, 1–1.5 inch diameter and 5–6 inches length are often ideal.

What lubricant should I use?

Water-based lubes are best for silicone toys and safe for all types of play.