How to Choose a Strap-On Dildo
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Stepping into the world of strap-on dildos can feel a little intimidating at first, but it doesn’t have to be. Whether you’re curious about pegging, spicing things up with your partner, or exploring new sides of your sexuality, the right strap-on can make all the difference.
This friendly, non-judgmental guide will help you pick the perfect strap-on dildo, allowing you to focus on having fun, not confusion.
1.Start with your "Why do you choose to wear a dildo?"
Before you start browsing, take a moment to think about why you want a strap-on dildo.
- Pegging adventures? Go for something with a flared base and a smooth, manageable size.
- Vaginal play? A softer, slightly shorter dildo will feel more natural and comfortable.
- Gender expression or roleplay? You might love a realistic look and feel.
- Switching it up together? Double-ended dildos can make mutual play even more exciting.
👉 Tip: If you prefer gentle, smooth penetration, check out the range of small strap-on dildos, which are designed for beginners.
2.Choose the Right Size
Sure, the internet is full of giant toys, but when you’re just starting out, smaller is smarter.
- Length: A sweet spot for beginners is usually 5–7 inches.
- Girth: Look for 1–1.5 inches in diameter—enough to feel satisfying but not intimidating.
- Weight: Lighter toys are easier to maneuver and control.
If you’re ready for something bigger down the road, explore the Large Strap On Dildos for more intense sensations.
3.Choose a Body-Safe Material
Your body deserves the best - so choose a wearable dildo that is comfortable and made of materials that keep you safe:
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Silicone: The gold standard—hypoallergenic, non-porous, and easy to clean.
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TPE/TPR: Soft and flexible, but can be harder to sanitize.
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Latex: Stretchy, but not ideal if you have allergies.
- PVC or jelly: Inexpensive, but often porous—look for phthalate-free options.
When in doubt, high-quality silicone is your friend.
Explore Silicone Strap On Dildos to find the safest, most comfortable options.
4. Harness Styles: Find Your Fit
A harness should feel like an extension of your body. Here are the most popular types:
Panty-Style Harness
Comfy and discreet—like wearing underwear.
Two-Strap/Jock-Style Harness
The classic choice. Adjustable and secure, giving you solid control for thrusting.
Three-Strap Harness
Extra support and stability—perfect if you want to get a little more vigorous.
Vac-U-Lock or Modular Systems
Interchangeable dildos = endless possibilities.
✨ Recommended: Browse the Strap On Harnesses Collection to see what suits your style and budget.
5. Compatibility Matters
Not every dildo works with every harness.
Make sure your dildo has a flared base, and that your harness has rings or O-rings that fit snugly.
At StraponDildo we offer different styles of suction cup dildos that are compatible with a variety of strap-ons.
6. Consider a Functional Wearable Dildo
Ready to turn up the intensity? A strap-on dildo doesn’t have to be basic—here are some exciting upgrades that can make your play truly unforgettable:
Vibrating Functions
Craving that toe-curling buzz? Vibrating strap-ons can add deep, rumbling sensations that both partners will feel. Whether you prefer a gentle hum or a powerful pulse, vibration can take each thrust to the next level. (Tip: Try a remote-controlled vibrator to surprise your partner mid-session.)
Check out the Vibrating Strap On Dildos for inspiration.
Realistic Textures
If you love lifelike detail, choose a dildo with pronounced veins, ridges, or a defined head. These textures don’t just look authentic—they create delicious friction that feels closer to the real thing. Perfect for roleplay or those who want every sensation amplified.
Double Penetration Designs
Why settle for one when you can have two? Double penetration strap-ons let you fill multiple places at once, intensifying that sense of fullness. Some harnesses even support a secondary dildo you can customize to your preferred size and shape.
Hollow Dildos
Want to combine penetration with an erection enhancer or packer? Hollow dildos slip comfortably over a penis or packer, giving you a larger, firmer shape and helping with performance anxiety or ED. They’re also a fun way to experiment with a new size without pressure.
Suction Cup Bases
Sometimes, you don’t want to wear it—you want it to stay put wherever you need it. Suction cup strap-ons can be attached to any smooth surface for hands-free play, whether that’s a shower wall, a chair, or the floor.
These special features aren’t just bells and whistles—they’re ways to customize your toy to your body, fantasies, and mood. When you find a dildo that feels made for you, every moment gets more thrilling.
7. Budget: It’s an Investment in Pleasure
Entry-level sets start around $40–$60, while premium harnesses and dildos can go over $100.
Higher prices usually mean:
✔ Better materials
✔ More comfort
✔ Greater durability
If you’re new, you can start with something simple—like the Beginner Strap On Kits designed for first-timers.
8. Tips for a Fun First Time
- Lube is a must. Water-based lube is safest for silicone toys.
- Take it slow. This is about connection, not a race.
- Communicate. Check in often with your partner.
- Practice wearing the harness first. Even a dry run helps you feel confident.
- Relax and enjoy yourself. Play is supposed to be fun!
FAQs
Can men use strap-ons too?
Absolutely. Many men enjoy pegging or switching roles.
Can I use the same dildo for vaginal and anal play?
Yes, but clean it thoroughly—or use separate toys for safety.
What’s the difference between pegging and other strap-on sex?
Pegging usually means anal penetration of a man by a woman, but strap-ons can be used by and for all genders.
Final Thoughts
Choosing your first strap-on doesn’t have to be complicated.
Be clear about what you want, pick quality materials, and don’t stress about getting everything “perfect.”
The most important thing is to have fun, explore, and find what makes you feel amazing.
Ready to shop?
Discover our handpicked Strap On Dildo Collection and start your adventure today.